“To be nobody-but-yourself – in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else – means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” – e.e. cummings
I’m a stickler for a great quote and this one especially rings true personally for me. You see, I’ve lived the majority of my life trying to be something other than myself. I spent too many years not even knowing what I wanted – a struggle between what I thought I needed to be and what was authentically me. I, like many people, suffered from depression and struggled with both an eating disorder and self-injury.
What we tell ourselves, what we believe about ourselves, is our reality. I set so many limiting beliefs for myself because I believed what society was selling. I bought the poison that was killing me. What I had to do was re-evaluate my beliefs about myself: Why do I believe being an introvert is something negative? Why do I equate my weight with my beauty and self-worth? Why am I not enough?
I was holding myself back because I chose to believe the bullshit. I believed that I had to sacrifice my true self to please others, to be “good.” I believed the bullshit that I wasn’t good enough; that to be good enough was being like the girl who could effortlessly carry on a conversation. Or that girl who seemed confident in her own skin.
I was looking outside of myself for answers – trying to be somebody else.
But now I can look inward at my mind and the limiting beliefs that hold me back. Simple: Yes. Easy: No.
After all, who wants to admit to themselves that they are the ones holding them back? It’s easier to believe that we are not who we want to be or where we want to be in life because of some outside force, or because of our circumstances.
That I can’t achieve something because of [insert excuse here].
But here’s what I have started to understand (through TED talks, learning about successful people, and immersing myself in personal development books and articles) that it all starts with me and the stories I tell myself about myself. And now that I’m on this journey of self-discovery, I want to share what I am learning and what I have learned so that we can experience living and loving with our “nobody-but-yourself” hearts.
I’m on a mission to have you truly believe that who you are is enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone. And that it is time to listen to the song of your heart.